Learn how to love your home in this 30 day series about making small improvements to, being grateful for and seeing the beauty in the home you have. Today we’re talking about how perfection is a myth, the perfect home is a myth and no one has it all together all the time.
Welcome back to day 2 of our HOME SWEET HOME – 30 Days to Love Your Home series! Today I wanted to address something that I think most of us are only occasionally conscious of. Truthfully even I am not always aware of it – and I SHOULD be. That is that perfection is a myth and no one has it all together all the time.
Perfection is a Myth
Because of the niche of this blog, I follow a lot of home decorating websites, blog and shops on social media. I spend a lot of time on Pinterest and Instagram and Facebook looking at pretty things and beautiful spaces.
And every so often I find myself getting sucked in.
Sucked into what, you ask?
Sucked into believing that the people on the other side of those perfect little squares and snapshots have their sh*t entirely together.
I feel like their homes are perfect. Perfectly organized down to every last cupboard and drawer. Always clean, never a book or pillow out of place. Nary a dust bunny to be found. That somehow their kids are always dressed adorably and that they themselves never have a hair out of place or a single wrinkle.
And I start to feel bad.
I feel bad that we have more than one junk drawer, that we have boxes still sitting unpacked from our move almost a year ago and that the kids bathroom is ALWAYS dirty. (I swear I feel like I’m the only one in the house that can clean up toothpaste from a sink and scrub a toilet!)
I feel bad that I work in sweats or tights most days and that my kids do school (homeschool) in their pajamas. I’m embarrassed by dishes that sit in my sink for days and makeup-free days that stretch into weeks.
I wonder why I’m failing when everyone else seems to be perfect?
Then I step back. I remember that we are all human. That those little squares are just a highlight reel.
And then I realize that even my own social media accounts focus on only the pretty things.
And for that I want to apologize.
I share the pretty photos because I want to inspire you, not because I want to make you feel bad. But I realize that in the sharing of the pretty things, there can be an imbalance.
Please know that even though there are pretty pictures and certain parts of our home that are lovely to look at, the entire house is not like that. There are messes and piles and paper and fingerprints. (Oh the fingerprints!)
Here are a few examples of our imperfect spaces to hopefully encourage you…
Plus we need a new roof, a new pool liner, 3 out of 4 bathrooms are stuck in the 90s, the laminate flooring is worn right through in some spots and many of the MDF baseboards are curling on the bottoms because a previous owner used a steam cleaner too close to them! I could fill an entire post with photos of our sad, disorganized, messy spaces.
But I LOVE OUR HOME ANYWAY. Even in its imperfection.
Your home has flaws, but you can love it anyway.
Despite the fact that I wish every cupboard and drawer in our home were an organized masterpiece, they’re just not. Our entire home is not always tidy. It is not always clean. The walls, cupboards, bathrooms and flooring are not perfect.
And I know it’s the same for your home. Like the Nester says, “it doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful”. But I believe you can still learn to love your home in its imperfection!
Come back for the rest of the series to see exactly how to do that!